Is it wrong to host/plan your own baby shower?
Mar 09, 2010
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I live in The Netherlands where baby shower parties are just not done! None of my friends have no idea what to do, they barely know what a baby shower is and they are really superstitious about celebrating the baby before it has arrived. I come from a country where baby shower parties are quite normal and have hosted quite a few myself but never here (though I have offered but was declined) I would really like to have a baby shower but I am afraid no one will come and celebrate with me. This is my first baby so I’m naturally so excited to celebrate! Any opinions?
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9 comments
Glenna on March 9, 2010 at 7:55 pm
Its not wrong, but it is viewed as tacky. Considering you live in a place where its incredibly unheard of to have a baby shower prior to the birth of the baby, I would skip it. It sounds like most people are against participating in things like that. Just have a baby shower AFTER the baby arrives. Its just as fun and exciting. If you do want a traditional baby shower, then consider flying home (assuming there are still friends and family there) and have your baby shower there. I’m sure they’ll all be thrilled to see you and host a shower for you.
shawna s on March 9, 2010 at 8:18 pm
i would do it anyways. they need to get ver it and be there for you. its your baby not theres
Tiss on March 9, 2010 at 8:35 pm
Sorry. You can’t host your own baby shower. Especially if you live in a country where the custom is to avoid celebrating the baby until it is born. You should be respectful of the culture you’re living in. If you want to, you can have an open house after the baby is born, so people can meet him or her, and they might bring presents, but you’ll have to give up the idea of a baby shower.
Soon 2 be momy of 2 on March 9, 2010 at 9:00 pm
I hosted and planned my own with my son, i just invited some close friends and family, It was awesome, we did it at a park and had pizza and just played the silliest games ever then opened presents
~It's a boy~ on March 9, 2010 at 9:25 pm
I don’t think it is wrong!
I am doing my own baby shower as well! i hope people come!
I will be inviting people from my boyfriends side and invite people from my side! It is also my first baby and excited for everything!
Good luck and congrats
beetlemilk on March 9, 2010 at 10:24 pm
Yes do it. Customs are observed no matter where you are living. I don’t think it is tacky at all, and do think they will come!
Kate on March 9, 2010 at 10:34 pm
Throwing your own shower, even if your motives are good, always looks like a gift grab. Unless you’re willing to do a party and specifically say “no gifts”, I don’t think its right. People will come to support you, but its very tacky. I feel for you girl and wish you could get one but you will put strains on your relationships by inviting your friends to a shower they feel superstitious about and no one offered to throw.
diapercakesbybecca on March 9, 2010 at 10:50 pm
I am typically ALL ABOUT celebrating baby. But your case calls for a MEET THE BABY celebration to be thrown when baby is about six weeks old. Invite all of the same people and let them come meet your bundle of joy.
I just think throwing your own in a country where having any type of celebration BEFORE the baby arrives is considered bad luck, I think that would be pushing it.
Just wait and do it after. You’ll be fine and you would actually have folks shows up. I think you’d find your shower absent a lot of folks otherwise!
muddywolfe on March 9, 2010 at 10:59 pm
It says I am throwing a party for myself and I need you to fund it.